Don't let other people's opinions burn holes in your dreams.
Elsa Joy Bailey
This from Gratefulness.org today. A word I so needed!
Those of you who were reading this blog before and during the election know that my husband and I disagreed mightily about, oh, everything. It was very difficult.
I thought I was finished with that (for a while at least). But now the Inaugural festivities seem to be bringing up his fears and distress again.
And it's more than the political things - he also dislikes most music that is not baroque or early church music or classic rock. So he can't bear to hear folk, i.e. the joyous and amazing performance by Bruce Springsteen and Pete Seeger at yesterday's concert is highly unpleasant to him. :(
(I'd post that here but it's been taken off of Youtube...so instead I'll share a classic 1964 Seeger tune. I grew up on this stuff...)
I wish so much that we could share in the joy I feel at this time. I think I am wishing he could be more like me....
AHA!
I know, truly, that if I have a problem with him, it is MY problem. That is, he is not holding me down and forcing me to agree with him. He is merely disagreeing with me. And wishing someone else would be like me, or, in fact, be ANY way except how they are - that way lies madness.
I married him, almost 10 years ago now, because I love who he is. I didn't have any illusions he was "perfect." (I'm sure he was also not thinking that about me, and if he was, well, he's had plenty of time to learn The Awful Truth!)
So I wonder how long I will keep dancing around this particular mulberry bush?
Until then I'm awfully glad to have like-minded friends, and also NON-like minded friends, on teh internets.
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